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Jul 11, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

As always you writing is so raw and full of real emotions. As always inspirational mother XX I have so much to learn from you

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Jul 6, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Thank you for this wonderful writing of your life journey.

My thoughts and prayers for the departed soul and strength to you and the family to bear the loss. Your observations care sound mental health principles.

I especially liked the following paragraph:

Learning to grieve well is as important a life-lesson as learning to find happiness. None of us are permanently shiny happy people, regardless of what social media feeds work hard to convince us of. To be human is to be sad, to weep, and nurse broken hearts. I would not have my children believe otherwise. They need to make friends with these emotions, so that they also discover the passageways through them. The journey to the other side of grief takes work and we rarely make it unscarred. But it is because of these wounds that we develop empathy and discover resilience – two qualities I would like my children to be described by above most others.

I hope and pray that you all heal well.

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Jul 2, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Sorry for your loss Pallavi. I am glad we have people like you who can put so eloquently in words what we all feel. And I couldn’t agree more with feel feelings.

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Thank you, Gary.

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Jul 2, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Your way with words is simple and beautiful!

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Thanks, Seema.

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Jul 2, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

My dear Pallavi How lucky your children to have a Mum like you! I totally suscribe your views, a time comes when a child must leave Disneyworld and confront reallife with all its magnificent wonders and tragedies. Thank you for another deeply thought beautiful article!

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Thank you, Ultano, for always reading my pieces so attentively.

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Jul 2, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Dear Pallavi, my sincerest condolences on the passing of your mother. I lost my father three years ago and I am still in shock. I come from a family that protected their children from the rituals of death. I was in my forties when I first went to a cremation. I admire your courage. And your kids’. When my father passed none of his grandchildren could make it. We were still in pandemic and they were all in different places. My dad was an amazing grandfather. Reading this piece made me feel very sad for all of us. I wish you all peace and strength.

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Thank you, Mitu. I appreciate your writing in.

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Jul 2, 2023Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Dear Pallavi

As someone who lost her mother less than two years ago, and as someone who grew up watching your mother read the news in her perfect diction and impeccable saris, I empathise with every word.

Like you I too go through my mother’s saris to inhale her fragrance. Reading about your mother’s passing away felt like a personal loss.

You write beautifully. Losing a much loved parent is one of the hardest milestones of our lives. But her legacy lives on through you and your writing where she comes alive for the rest of us too.

The grief will remain a part of you and you will rebuild your life around this loss. But you will be the stronger for it. My deepest condolences to you. Take care.

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So sorry for your loss too. Thank you for writing in.

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Thank you

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So sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength and peace.

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As always moving and evocative. It’s impact in your singular eloquence visceral. Sorry for your gutting loss.

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