Absolutely loved this and related to it all! Though your being so forgiving is making the rest of us look bad! Actually, there is something wrong about how unprepared we are to be parents. We are literally brought up to believe that a baby is just something to be managed like a job. Whereas in fact I found that the baby is a force of nature and turned everything I had expected over the head! Not the same with the maids who became mothers about a decade and a half before my age (35) and were so calm and wise about it all. They were naturally giving....I had to learn to be. I had to learn how to engage in tasks that weren't cerebral and had no beginning or end. And physically having your baby in your thirties is much worse than in your late teens or twenties. The low milk supply thing is because of age. In many ways modern education tells you nothing about real life. Anyway, going to shut up before the feminists come after me with their janeboots.
When my two sons were born, my wife was a full-time housewife. She thought I needed to sleep at night otherwise I wouldn't perform well on my day job, so she never woke me up when the babies cried. In this sense, I was very lucky.
I helped in other ways, but at the end of the day, I guess a father can't even come close to the kind of intense relationship a mother has with her children.
Thank you for sharing your novel motherhood experiences….As a new dad I soon became an expert at nappy changing and baby burping, but never got the gist of bottle feeding ; after a couple of drowning incidents it went off my list of parental duties….I remember being amazed at the decibels of babies …
I am not sure I am ready for this level of fame 😂😂
;-) Love you!
Absolutely loved this and related to it all! Though your being so forgiving is making the rest of us look bad! Actually, there is something wrong about how unprepared we are to be parents. We are literally brought up to believe that a baby is just something to be managed like a job. Whereas in fact I found that the baby is a force of nature and turned everything I had expected over the head! Not the same with the maids who became mothers about a decade and a half before my age (35) and were so calm and wise about it all. They were naturally giving....I had to learn to be. I had to learn how to engage in tasks that weren't cerebral and had no beginning or end. And physically having your baby in your thirties is much worse than in your late teens or twenties. The low milk supply thing is because of age. In many ways modern education tells you nothing about real life. Anyway, going to shut up before the feminists come after me with their janeboots.
I so agree on the unpreparedness!
Luckily, we never had milk-related problems.
When my two sons were born, my wife was a full-time housewife. She thought I needed to sleep at night otherwise I wouldn't perform well on my day job, so she never woke me up when the babies cried. In this sense, I was very lucky.
I helped in other ways, but at the end of the day, I guess a father can't even come close to the kind of intense relationship a mother has with her children.
Thank you for sharing your novel motherhood experiences….As a new dad I soon became an expert at nappy changing and baby burping, but never got the gist of bottle feeding ; after a couple of drowning incidents it went off my list of parental duties….I remember being amazed at the decibels of babies …