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Sep 19Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Absolutely loved this and related to it all! Though your being so forgiving is making the rest of us look bad! Actually, there is something wrong about how unprepared we are to be parents. We are literally brought up to believe that a baby is just something to be managed like a job. Whereas in fact I found that the baby is a force of nature and turned everything I had expected over the head! Not the same with the maids who became mothers about a decade and a half before my age (35) and were so calm and wise about it all. They were naturally giving....I had to learn to be. I had to learn how to engage in tasks that weren't cerebral and had no beginning or end. And physically having your baby in your thirties is much worse than in your late teens or twenties. The low milk supply thing is because of age. In many ways modern education tells you nothing about real life. Anyway, going to shut up before the feminists come after me with their janeboots.

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I so agree on the unpreparedness!

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Sep 19Liked by Pallavi Aiyar

Thank you for sharing your novel motherhood experiences….As a new dad I soon became an expert at nappy changing and baby burping, but never got the gist of bottle feeding ; after a couple of drowning incidents it went off my list of parental duties….I remember being amazed at the decibels of babies …

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I am not sure I am ready for this level of fame 😂😂

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;-) Love you!

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